Marissa Katarina Bergmann was attending a rooftop get together in Bushwick, Brooklyn, in Could 2021 when she was approached by a person. She had lately arrived in New York from San Francisco to go to associates. “I used to be sitting there with my heart-shaped sun shades on, minding my very own enterprise,” Ms. Bergmann mentioned, when Retta Abraham sat down subsequent to her and began chatting.
“I didn’t even have a look at him,” she mentioned. Till he requested what her romantic life was like and caught her consideration.
“My ears perked up as a result of I believed ‘Oh, he’s drawn to me or involved in me,’” Ms. Bergmann, 33, mentioned. “Then I seemed over and realized how cute he was.”
Because it turned out, additionally they had rather a lot in widespread. They spoke about their households — each of their moms are of Japanese heritage — and their shut relationships with their grandmothers. The 2 additionally shared how their backgrounds impressed the imaginative and prescient they’d for his or her future selves: to be surrounded by kids and grandchildren.
Mr. Abraham, 40, advised her that “in the intervening time, that imaginative and prescient was a bit bit blurry as a result of I didn’t have that one that would assist co-create that with me.”
Ms. Bergmann mentioned that Mr. Abraham then paused and reached out his hand: “Like in an outdated film, he was like, ‘Do you wish to fall in love?’” she mentioned. “I wished to say ‘Sure, let’s do it,’ however I needed to be cool, so I requested if we might dance first.”
They danced on the get together and went on their first date 5 days later. The pair met in Madison Sq. Park in Manhattan — near the Rose Hill neighborhood the place Mr. Abraham lived — and walked to Nonono, a Japanese restaurant close by. Ms. Bergmann ended up staying along with her buddy on the Higher East Facet for 3 weeks, and when she returned house, they visited one another typically.
Then, within the fall of 2021, Mr. Abraham attended a marriage in upstate New York and was impressed by the love he witnessed. “It additionally jogged my memory of the sentiments I used to be having for Marissa,” he mentioned.
“He FaceTimed me thrice that day,” Ms. Bergmann mentioned. Over the last name, they each declared their love for one another.
Ms. Bergmann moved to New York and into Mr. Abraham’s house in Rose Hill on June 2, 2022, the place they nonetheless reside. Earlier that spring, the 2 began to speak about marriage, and Mr. Abraham started practising proposing.
On March 6, 2022, on the way in which to a restaurant, he requested if Ms. Bergmann would marry him sooner or later, and she or he mentioned sure. Whereas on trip in Rio de Janeiro later that month, Ms. Bergmann mentioned, he “practiced” getting down on one knee. And someday that August he unofficially proposed with a chunk of ginger of their kitchen. By fall, Mr. Abraham couldn’t include his enthusiasm anymore and purchased an engagement ring with a heart-shaped diamond.
He advised his 8-year-old niece concerning the ring. She advised her 5-year-old sister, who dropped a touch to Ms. Bergmann.
“I wasn’t contemplating that 8-year-olds and 5-year-olds can’t actually preserve secrets and techniques,” he mentioned.
On Nov. 20, the couple visited Ms. Bergmann’s hometown Palm Desert, Calif., and joined a few of their members of the family on the Coachella Valley Historical past Museum in Indio, Calif. An image of Ms. Bergmann’s grandparents was displayed in an exhibit that Ms. Bergmann’s mom had created concerning the household’s heritage. This was the place Mr. Abraham dropped to a knee and requested Ms. Bergmann to marry him.
Ms. Bergmann, who will likely be taking her husband’s final identify, acquired a bachelor’s diploma in visible and media research from Duke and an M.F.A. in high quality arts from California School of the Arts. She is the top of inventive at LilyAna Naturals, a skincare firm based mostly in Collinsville, Miss.
Mr. Abraham, the chief government of LilyAna Naturals, grew up in Ithaca, N.Y., and has a bachelor’s diploma in organic engineering from Cornell. He’s additionally the managing accomplice of RDM Companions, an funding agency, based mostly in St. Petersburg, Fla.
In 2021, Mr. Abraham and a buddy purchased a home in Guanacaste, Costa Rica. The couple deliberate their marriage ceremony close by, desirous to open the doorways of their coastal trip house to family and friends.
The couple had been married July 15 on the El Mangroove resort in Guanacaste with 115 company. The ceremony, which came about on a resort terrace close to the seashore, was led by Andrea Ochoa and Gregorio Avanzini, who’re associates of the couple. It was officiated by Einar José Villavicencio López, an area notary and lawyer.
The reception was held within the resort’s backyard underneath a tent. Mr. Abraham mentioned his father gave one of many closing toasts, “in recognition of the phrase banzai,” a Japanese time period that “means 10,000 years of life and luck.” The marriage get together toasted to the concept thrice — as soon as for the bride and groom, as soon as for his or her households and as soon as for everybody who had gathered to have a good time.